Relationships take time and rushing things…well, this is a quick way to fall into the pit of hell boredom. You grow together, you learn together, you skip rocks together and you pass the golden nugget. If you share personal information and the other person just takes it in without eventually passing the golden nugget, you might find yourself in a one-sided relationship where you spill your feelings, stories and secrets and get nothing in return. Oh, and FYI…there are some secrets that should never be told. You may also try Free Dating sites or apps to find new persons around your area.
I know, you want your partner to know every single thing about you and love you for who you are but hey, we’re all human. If you tell your lover that you had your high school, football team run a choo-choo train on you…he might tell you he’s not one to judge …while he’s judging. Suddenly, touchdowns have a whole, new meaning. Keep your foul, embarrassing, demoralizing, dirty, secrets for friends you can trust and if you have a burning desire (might want to get that checked) to be “honest”, wait until the honeymoon.
So, the point of this damn post is to pace yourself in new relationships. Please refrain from using the “Spill and Check” and go for the “Story for a Story”, this way you can test the waters. Plus, do you really want to take the chance of your partner becoming your ex-partner and then spreading the word about your love for gerbils?
You see? There are so many places to find love. Please don’t get discouraged. I have been so successful at this and YOU can to. All it takes it lowering your standards, lowering the bar and settling for less.